"I personally believe that each of us was put here for a purpose -- to build not to destroy. If I can make people smile, then I have served my purpose for God.” Red Skelton.
Life is getting emotionally easier since I mad the decision not to take Mom's comments to heart and adopted a game plan to make my days there as pleasant as possible for both her and I. It seems to be working.
Talked to Mark P. twice in the last week. He is still having a tough time with it. Yesterday was his wife's birthday and it was a really hard time for him. I keep hammering him to take care of himself because that is my greatest fear where he is concerned. He did say he was eating more. I hope that continues. I am having lunch with the other Mark on Tuesday.
I need to ask for prayers and good thoughts for my friend Nancie. She was supposed to be at Mom's last week to give Mom a foot treatment but she was down with a monster cold. Nancie is seemingly have one lost after another. The day after I had dinner at her house she had to put her cat of seventeen years down. In March her nephew disappeared on a hike and wasn't found until last week. They had the memorial form him last Monday. Then tomorrow her only child, her daughter, is moving back east. She will now be three thousand miles away instead of two hours away. In a way that is a loss too. If you can take a moment to send prayers or good thoughts her way it will be very much appreciated.
Last week. Lunch with Mom on Sunday. Lunch with the man from the firm I worked with on Monday. It was actually a pleasant lunch. He didn't really seek out any information just wanted to reconnect. He said again I was the only one that helped him from beginning to end during tax season. Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday were at Mom's. During the time there I did my laundry, had a really nice dinner out at Claim Jumper with Mom, was a lunch out, I cooked two dinners and made two lunches. Friday was knocking for ten things on my to do list. Saturday was knocking another ten items off my to do list.
On the agenda this week. Today is lunch with Mom. Tomorrow shopping for my sister's birthday gift. Tuesday the lunch with Mark. Wednesday and Thursday is at Mom's. Friday and Saturday is working on my to do list. I'm cleaning out the garage, redoing my will and trust agreement, making lists of people to contact should something happen to me, and so on.
On the entertainment front The Amazing Race 19 will begin on September 25, 2011. Reports have teams including former Survivor winners and dating couple Ethan Zohn and Jenna Morasca, and Zac Sunderland, the first person under 18 to sail solo around the world, with his father Laurence.
If you want to do something really fun go to :
http://maps.google.com/
Click on "get directions. Enter China as your starting point. Then enter Taiwan as your destination. Now scroll down and read number 48. Are these directions all wet?
What is up with you? My favorite thing to do is learn about others. So please check in and let us know what went on in your lives last week and what is going to go on in your lives next week. Extra credit for secrets. Post whatever you damn well please. The blog is now yours.
About Me
- William J.
- First, I think the birth sign is wrong. 6-21, some papers say Gemini, some Cancer. Guess that means I have so many personalities that I can do group therapy alone. For those that don't know how to read Google profiles I have put what I really mean in ( ). Hot (Good looking enough to be in movies(if I buy at ticket). A body like a God (Buddha). Romantic (Thinks begging is foreplay.) Physically fit (Heart trouble. Put 911 on speed dial before we get initmate.) Good Provider (has good life insurance in case you forget to put 911 on speed dial.) Loyal (has reference letters from Mom and parole officer.) Intelligent (scored 1600 on his SATS but you have to total the scores of the four times that I took the test.) Looking for someone compatible (Be between 30 & 99 and not inflatable.)
6 comments:
As usual, you sure have a lot of mom time scheduled. What's with your caregiver, anyway? I'm happy your new game plan makes your mom visits much more pleasant.
Say hello to the other Mark when you see him.
Nancie is having a hard time there, for sure. Yes, her daughter moving so far away is definitely a loss of sorts. I'm sure she will miss her terribly. I hope she's as good an email correspondent as my daughter is (and my SIL, too). Many good thoughts for Nancie coming.
Love the China to Taiwan directions, though I might have a bit of trouble following them. I've seen this sort of thing before, and I believe one set of directions involved walking on water. Swimming the Pacific might be a bit tiring, but I don't think I could walk across. {g}
I have the same question Pat does - where's the caretaker in this picture? I'm glad you're spending time with your mom and glad it's going more pleasantly. I suspect a part of you wants to spend as much time as possible with her.
I continue my prayers for both Marks. Yes. yesterday had to be tough for Mark P. Getting through all the "firsts" is hard, hard, hard, as you and many of us here know.
Prayers and positive thoughts for Nancie. She really has been through it the last few months. So sorry about her nephew and sorry about having to put her kitty down. I hope she'll consider rescuing another one. Scamp has been a blessing to us, after losing Skeeter. Where on the East Coast is her daughter moving? Yes, that is a loss, especially if she's always been nearby. A continent away can seem like the other side of the world, sometimes. Give her a hug from me, if she accepts such from strangers, please. She's kinda one of us now, whether she realizes it or not, and we care about our own.
Quiet week here. No pool time, until the scrapes from last week's fall heal. Today, for the first time, I feel like they're getting better. I did go to line dance, just to see if I could dance and how the hip would react. Hip did well, knees not so much, but I also got the skinny on where we'll be dancing, come August 1st and all the research that had been done. No pool has meant time to pick at some items on the to-do list and get in some extra editorial hours. Saw the massage therapist one day and the chiro the next. Yesterday was all about domestics and today was playing with yarn projects. Tuesday we drove up to Gaffney, to meet one of Himself's ham buddies for dinner. I know him, first time I've met his wife. After hearing her horror stories on their 10 mo old Aussie shepherds, I feel blessed with Scamper (who's currently curled up in my lap). The housebreaking is coming along very well (except when it rains, then all bets are off - Her Highness doesn't do "wet"), commands are coming, would come more quickly if Mom was more consistent. She continues to be a lover and cuddler, full of energy, sometimes mischief, but so far (knocking wood), not a chewer and only occasional stubborn spells. She also continues to evolve and change in appearance, so I've given up trying to guess her lineage, beyond terrier and chihuahua! Since she's now a whopping 6#, I told her it was time to quit growing, as she's supposed to top out at 8# full grown! She continues to wrap Himself around her little paw.
Next week is editorial, massage, chiro, line dance, hope to get the RV ready to roll for the hamfest the last weekend of July. I'd like to do a test run to the county RV park next weekend, but it'll depend on knees and legs, among other items on the agenda, as to whether I get it cleaned and stocked.
Hi Pat
It may seem like a lot of mom time but from someone that was doing five to seven days a week since dad had his stroke it is really nothing. The caregiver doesn't work days. She works only nights. The is there Thursday, Friday, Saturday, and Sunday nights. She usually stays Monday until noon to clean the house. Sister stays every Monday night. I stay every Wednesday night. We each do every other Tuesday. Sis lives three doors down so she just floats in and out on her days. Because I live several miles a way the days that I am there it is just easier for me to stay there. I am also the only that will take mom out, so I try to do that at least twice a week besides the days I'm not there. Can you imagine what it would be like if five days a week you did nothing but sat in a rocker and stared out the window? So I try to prevant that.
I will say hello to Mark on Tuesday for you.
I am betting Nancie's daughter is a good e-mail person. Nancie has been helping her and her boyfriend financially. The reason for the move is he got a job. So financially it will be better for her.
I don't think I would even try to walk on water. I'm not sure swimming the Pacific Ocean is a possiblity for me.
Bill
Hi DR
See not to Pat re caregiver.
The Marks and I appreciate you prayers as does Nancie. Mark P will probably do fine now until the memorial which is secheduled for 8-20. Nancie Daughter didn't move all the way to the East Coast, she moved to Louisana. Of course she accepts hugs from strangers!
Sorry there was no pool time this week. I'm glad the scrapes are finally getting better. Taking a long time to heal. I am glad that you got to go to Line Dancing and the hip survived it. Did you like the wife? Scamp seems to be doing pretty well. Wow has Scamp ever grown!
Next week sounds pretty full to me.
The Hamfest at the end of the month sounds fun! I hope you are well enough to take a test run with the RV.
Bill
Hi Bill. I agree it sounds like you spend a lot of time at moms. But I think that is just your nature. I may have missed the game plan if you shared it...if not maybe you could? I tend to have to hear some comments that really tend to hurt my feelings from my dad. I know he means no harm and I have tried to just laugh them off usually but realize they really do bother me more that I thought.
Now the Mark that is eating more and lost his wife...didn't he have a health issue himself? (sorry I forgot) I will pray for both Marks and Nancie. Sounds like she is having a really rotten time of it. I feel terrible for her with her nephew also. I think I have missed a few posts lately. Prayers coming for your friends.
I think the guy from your work is lucky to have you as a friend, an he knows it. I can't see you doing anything other than doing all you can to help anyone in a work situation or any other time no matter if you like them or not. I think that is just who you are.
I like it you have to do lists....I do too, although some of mine are rolled over from last year..:(
DR, Scamp sounds too cute for words...we are so ready for another pet....the not doing wet sounds familiar too! lol
The week here started out just doing the usual. I am doing more, like yard work and such since the Shankster is still down trying to obey the restrictions. We live on a hill, and I mow the flat parts and he does the hills usually. He worries about me doing the steep hills with the dizziness. But I have gotten them done ok so far. (only with his supervision & direction of course) :) Too bad the restrictions don't include that!
His soreness and pain is still present as is the bleeding with clots. I finally got him to not go with me when I had to drive somewhere as we found it only aggravates his situation. (and I don't mean the driving from the back seat):)
Yesterday was the worst with not one but two trips to the ER for him, starting before the crack of dawn. After finally getting some breakfast in us both around 3pm, I lost part of a tooth....haven't had the time to figure out which one yet. We and ER team were afraid he would be back but so far so good. (keep your fingers crossed please!)
So this week we plan on calling the Doc first thing tomorrow and see where that takes us, as we just went to our local hospital for the ER and our doc/usual hospital is an hour away. Keep fluids in the Shankster even though he is tired of water, cranberry juice, lemonade, smoothies, raspberry tea, regular tea or anything I can think of with water in it, keep him rested, try to keep him from following me everywhere, keep finding things for him to do so I can see if I can finish some of the housework/moving I started 3 weeks ago, oh and figure out which tooth is missing a piece and super glue it back in...:)
Hi Dona
Boy Dona do you have a lot on your plate. I pray every day that things get easier for both you and The Shankster. Please be careful doing yard work. I am glad The Shankster is at least trying to obey orders. That is an improvement. You need to get The Shankster's doctor to write a prescription that he can't tell you either how to drive or how to mow a lawn.
I'm really sorry he still has soreness and blod clots. That poor man has suffered enough. One trip to the ER in the day is enough, two is just to much to appear. Ouch on the tooth! I am praying that he doesn't return to the ER.
Please keep us posted about what the Doctor says tomorrow. Peace Dona.
After a huge fight with my Mom that ended causing me with so much stress that I ended up in the hospital I had a realization that I needed to differently. Bascially my game plan is realizing that you can't control what another person says or does you can only control your reaction to what they say or do. My plan is ignore her comments, not get sucked into an argument, take a lot of deep breaths, and just make my time at Mom's as pleasant as possible for both of us. That is better for Mom's health and my health.
Mark not only lost his wife, the week his wife died, he had surgery for prostate cancer. Your prayers for both Marks and Nancie are very much appreciated.
We are related! I not only have things rolled over from last year on the list, I have things from the last decade that rolled over to the list.
Bill
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