Used to be my hero. I wanted to be like him. Now I all I see is a despicable human being. As someone who has represented clients through divorces brought on by affairs I can respect no man that would cause that kind of pain to his family and to have an affair when his wife and children needed his support the most just makes him a person that has to improve to be a bottom feeder.
How hard can it be for a married man to say to a woman "You are an attractive lady but I am married to the woman I love and would never do anything to endanger the love we have between us. So thanks but no thanks." Why don't men in power have the backbone to support their wives in a loving and caring way?
There are men that don't have affairs. My dad was married to my mom for over sixty years. He never had an affair. I know this because the week he died when we were saying our good byes to each other he told me that in sixty years he never cheated on mom because he never found a woman he loved as much as her or a woman as good as her. He told me he treasured every moment with her. He said his one wish for me was to find a woman that I loved as much as he loved mom to share my life with. He told me that if I did find that woman never to cheat on her because cheating was stealing.
That is what both John Edwards and the woman that he had an affair with did, they stole from Elizabeth Edwards and the Edwards family. They stole time and support that rightfully belonged to Elizabeth Edwards and the Edwards children.
Now John Edwards wants forgivenes. He isn't getting mine.
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I think there are a whole lot of folks who feel as you (and I) do about the latest development in politics. Himself and I both respected Edwards and he had some good ideas and solutions. We'd gone so far as to discuss what impact his nomination as VP would have on our voting decisions.
Having not had a great deal of power in my life, I've no idea why power seems to make men (and women) think it's okay to do something, just because they have the opportunity and they "can." I suppose, to some extent, a person's private life is none of our business. OTOH, it seems to me that issues of this nature raise the questions of ethics, integrity, honesty. If you cheat on your wife, will you cheat on your country, will you cheat the people who voted for you, will you cheat in making deals with Congress, etc ad nauseum?
This was particularly disillusioning, coming on the heels of the indictment of AK Senator Stevenson, who's represented Alaska since the ark landed and who did so much good for the state when I lived up there twenty-thirty years ago.
Who can you trust and how far?
Hi Dr
In attention to Stevenson we can add to the list Newt, Mayor Rudy, Bill, Spitzer, Livingston, and the list goes on.
I don't think a person's private life should be fodder for political campaigns except that is shows like you said extremely poor judgment.
I've never had any power in my life but if I was given I would like to think I would be strong enough to be faithful to the people that got me where I was able to gain that power.
It is just so disappointing.
Bill
I'm struggling a little with the Edwards thing. Mostly because I'm not as surprised as a lot of people. Yes, it's disappointing, and I liked him better before this revelation, but I have to just heave a heavy sigh at these things and mutter "Men!" because it happens with such regularity and no longer comes as any kind of shock to me. In fact, I had wondered a little about him, because unlike the McCains and the Gingriches of this world, who do the same thing, only they seem to marry the "other woman", Edwards is darned attractive, and I imagine women have been throwing themselves at him for years. It's a rare man who resists forever, it seems to me.
Another puzzler is that they so often tell their wives, or let them know somehow. I'm glad Edwards did, because for Elizabeth to have learned of it first from the Enquirer would have been even harder to bear. They apparently dealt with it between them, so mostly what I think about it is that it's none of our damned business and I wish we'd go back to the days of a press "gentlemen's agreement" to leave these things out of the news.
Hi Pat
The part that bothers me the most is that we gotten to the place where we expect the men in power to cheat and so many people's reaction is "men!" I think we need to expect more of all men both those in power and those regular Joes like myself.
I do wish private lifes would stay private like they did during the Kennedy years but in a way we have a right to know about the type of decisions our politicians make.
I'm glad Elizabeth found out before it hit the inquire to but the woman was handling so much, cancer, the death of a son, you would think her husband would keep it in his pants.
Bill
I can tell you that if one of my sons did that to his wife, I would be first in line to slap him up the side of the head. I did not raise my boys to have women talk about them as "men."
I do think that power corrupts, both sexes, and that all the attention, makes it hard. Throw in a wife struggling with cancer, and a woman throwing herself at him, I can understand it. I don't condone it, and he should have known better, but I can understand it.
Hi again, Bill. I think we *do* expect more of men, especially those in power and the public eye. Hence, Edwards has seriously damaged his political career, if not ended it, by this escapade. And how stupid was it to go and see the woman in some hotel after he'd ended it and gotten away with it for a year or more? How can any of them think these days that they won't get caught?
If we really expected prominent men to cheat, we wouldn't fill the media with it when they get caught. But we should expect it. Powerful men have always been prone to dalliances down through the centuries, we just didn't talk about it there for a while.
And of course I don't mean *all* men or even all prominent men. There are plenty who remain faithful, just as there are women who cheat, though probably not nearly as many.
Hi Mary
Sorry it took so long to respond but today was a very busy day and I just got home, been gone since six this morning.
I think power corrupts also but there has to be a good man out there somewhere that would do the right thing given the power. I wish I had so I could test myself.
Unlike you, I don't understand it especially because of the cancer. That is a time for a man to stand behind his wife not desert her.
Bill
Hi Pat
I think we used to expect more of men now we expect them to fail us either with affairs or a bribe or a political action committee.
I think when men in power fail us it makes it harder for the good honest guys to exist, because it often becomes "men" or "all men". We all get painted with that brush.
Edwards not only damaged his political career I think he ended it. Deservedly so.
I know you don't lump all men together and I know you know some women cheat. When I was in my drinking stage married women were in the bars as much as single women and often outnumbered the single women.
Bill
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