Some of you have asked either in email, here on the blog, or in instant message how the move home for my mom went. It has been just barely over a week and now that things are settling in I thought this would be good time to discuss the not drama free move.
I love my sister dearly. She has been a huge help in caring for first dad and then Mom. I am in awe of her talent as an interior decorator and appreciative of the talent that her and her husband have when it comes to remodeling houses. Sis and her husband did a ton of work remodeling Mom's house before Mom moved home. With the new bedroom, the new carpet, and the new paint job Mom's house looks absolutely marvelous. Nobody could have made a house look more beautiful than sis and her husband did. That being said my sis has an explosive personality. She also often has a tendency to know more about an event that she wasn't at than the people that were at the event. Sis is also extremely protective of Mom's house since she is the one that will get Mom's house should something happen to Mom or should Mom decide to sell the home then sis gets the house at an extremely reduced price. This was my idea since I have a debt free house and since Sis has done more with the care of my parents then my brother and really deserves more.
A little more background so you can understand the drama filled move. Before Mom moved home we hired two caregivers. One was to be there five nights a week. One was to be there two nights a week.. We would give them a furnished bedroom and an evening meal. Neither was to move in. Anyone see where this is going?
The day of the move we found out that the five day caregiver had moved into mom's house. Moved all of her stuff into the spare bedroom. This meant that we had nowhere to put mom's bedroom furniture. That problem was quickly solved. It is in my garage. The garage I spent almost a year cleaning out.
Now come the accusations. We were accused of telling the caregiver to move in so that it would be harder for sis to get the house if she wanted it. She knew that is what we said to the caregiver. Truth is we met with the caregiver three times and never once said she could move in. Sis thinks that once the caregiver is in she can't move out. Sis pretty much treated the caregiver poorly. Of course, giving no consideration to the fact that if she quit it would significantly impact my life. Kind of the history of my family, nephews, brothers, etc. Create havoc, go home to the safety of their homes and let me deal with the aftermath. After a couple of days of tense behavior between sis, Mom, caregiver and yours truly things settled down .
After sis and her husband went back to Utah , Mom and I met with the move-in caregiver and told what an awful position she put us in (I am more tactful then my sister) by moving in without even asking us first. She had misunderstand some of the things mom and I said. We got everything on the table including that everything in life, including life itself is temporary. That Mom could decide to move back to assisted living, that sis could decide to move here from Utah after they sell their house there , that mom could become to ill to be in the house and so on. That there were numerous things that could happen that would require her to move out, maybe on really short notice and that this definitely was not permanent. My solution was that if we are unable to give the move-in caregiver seven days notice, then we will pay one month storage for her to move her stuff into. There is now a signed written notarized agreement between us and both caregivers.
Everything appears to be solved now. Both caregivers seem happy. Mom seems happy. Sis is now very happy and sees the benefits of having someone at Mom's house. I am getting there. I don't quite feel free yet to travel or do things that take me a couple of hours away from here. I want to make sure Mom is safe, as healthy as can be expected, and is adjusted to being home before I seek out my own life.
Just a week in caring for an elderly parent. So how are you doing with caregiving?
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Oh, wow! What a week! That sure did get complicated. It does sound as though you resolved it well, and having a live-in should be good for mom. I think. I don't quite see how the second caregiver will fit in unless the live-in one just disappears for two days a week, and I sure hope the two of them get along well. Good for you for getting a signed agreement. I'm very, very glad that it didn't end up with you spending nights there again.
Sorry about your garage, that must be really annoying.
My own situation, since you ask, just muddles along much the same. Takes big chunks out of ever day, but at least I like the place mom is in and I like the staff there very much. She continues to do well, but has to be reminded that she lives there and doesn't quite get that, nor does she realize I'm there every day, and always says she's so glad to see me again, as if it has been months and not hours. The staff seems to like her, and a couple of them keep buying her clothes and earrings, which kind of embarrasses me, but it's very sweet of them. She doesn't need clothes and has plenty of jewelry, but it's sweet that they think of her when they go shopping. The bath-giver and one other fix her hair nicely, experimenting with braids and ponytails. She refuses haircuts because she likes them to fiddle with her hair. There are some problems and I still need a private night person to make sure she doesn't get up and fall, but all in all, I really lucked out finding this place. On the dimmer side of things, it's alarming how quickly the money disappears with this level of care.
Hi Pat
I always want to hear how things are going with you and caregiving. I know how hard it is to be in seemingly a never ending situation and really not have anyone to talk about it with. I admire you for giving so much to your mom. It does take a chunk out of your life, a big chunk. I'm glad the staff likes her and although, like you, I would be embarrassed if the bought my mom stuff I think it very sweet of them because it shows they really care about your mom. That means she will always be watched out for even if you aren't there.
I know how quickly the money disappears, with dad even though we did most of the caregivng ourselves in the three years it too half of mom and dad's assets to care for him. Six figures easily.
The way the two caregivers is going to work, it when the two dayer is their she will do all the work and the other caregiver is on her own. We want to keep the two dayer because she is mom's favorite. And the five dayer doesn't get paid those two days.
I'm not that upset about the garage.
Bill
You've had quite a week. Given past exchanges, I'm not a bit surprised there was drama, with Sis involved, despite all the help she provides. I hear you on those not being there seeming to know more about what happened than the active participants -- an amazing ability (wry s). Glad you got the caretaking issue resolved and have it in writing. The last thing YOU need is to go back to the situation you were in before. Bummer on the garage but the good news is you had it cleaned out (another wry s).
Glad to hear everyone else is happy. How long will it be before Bill is happy and comfortable? Do you think your mom may change her mind, when she realizes the socializing she's missing by being home?
Here... we coast. Had the last gel injection yesterday, literally praying for good results. Since it was just before lunch and line dance, Mom went to both with me and seemed to enjoy being welcomed back as an observer by the LD group. I was glad she went, as she's spent most of the past two weeks in bed, not wanting to go to lunch, go anywhere, forcing herself to do groceries. We took her to dinner tonight -- always a question: Do we want dinner alone to talk or do we want to take Mom, so she can get out of the house? The one thing that motivates her is eating out. I'm doing what I can to plan more social outings -- the Hallmark debut (yes, she'll get up early in the morning to do that) and the HillSkills craft show (I'll get a wheelchair there, if need be) and such.
Sent the update to the sibs, along with the fact I'd raised the question of an elder care attorney and checking her finances and possible benefits, if needed in the future. So far, no response from anyone. No more comments from Mom about possible changes in living arrangements. No comments about her desire to have everyone here for Christmas (they'd all (7) be staying with us, in house and RV, unless something changes). Bear in mind, we have one bedroom and bath, plus a hideabed in the craft room and three beds (more or less) and a very small bath in the RV -- this could be real fun. I keep reminding myself it could be a good bonding opportunity and I can always have Bilo prepare the holiday dinner (grin).
Pat, I'm so glad your Mom's doing so well in her home and is so well liked. Yes, I understand your feeling about them buying her things, but I think it speaks well of both the staff's consideration and your mom's attitude that they want to do such. Caregiving takes a huge chunk of time, yet I think those of us who have the opportunity are blessed in many ways -- we're getting time with our parents, regardless of the frustrations sometimes involved, that others don't or can't or whatever. My sibs have missed out on four years they can never recapture, be those times good/bad/ugly and regardless of what our moms remember (Mother has little recollection of the nasty three-plus weeks in hospital, which I consider to be a Good Thing.)
Meantime, taking a page from Bill's book and trying to learn from him and you, although I've two editorial projects coming in, as far as I know, I've plugged in some things for myself and promised myself to get back to the guitar and piano. I'm having lunch with a former FUlir guitar instructor in a couple weeks and I've committed to participate in a line dance exhibition in Flat Rock for a senior's SE regional conference for a church. The van will pick me up about 4 miles from home. Can't remember the last time I had a girl's lunch with a friend other than Mom, nor the last time I took an evening to do something fun for me. I'm learning. Now, just have to stick to my new plan, or as close as possible
Bill, don't know why my comment posted twice. Can you remove the duplicate?
I don't actually talk much about the caregiving, except to my daughter and here and to the staff at Las Casitas. Every couple of months, I go to a caregivers group, but often their day turns out to be the wrong day for me. Mostly, I figure people don't want to hear about it, except as a brief answer to their questions. So this is a good place to vent.
It sounds like your caregiver arrangement is a good one. I do hope it works out well. Only of course, I really hope she'll want to go back to the Springs.
Glad you're philosophical about the garage.
Hi Dr
Even though what you said was good enough to read twice I did delete the second message. You can also delete it yourself. There is a little garbage can that appears at the end of each message. Just click that on and viola you can delete your own message.
Isn't that the most amazing ability to know more that the people that were there? If memory serves me correctly some of your relatives have the same abilities.
I will be happy and comfortable when I am at my mental and physical goals. Don't know how long that will be.
My mom says she misses the meals there and the shower there but she prefers being home. I don't anticipate her going back to assisted living. She really should though her blood pressure has been higher since she has been home.
Coasting seems normal for care giving. Sad but true. I hope the gel injections work! I will pray for good results along with you.
Great news that you got your Mom out! And the fact that people welcomed her should make her want to go out more.
Since I don't have a spouse it is easy for me to take mom along for dinner.
Please let us know how the Hallmark debut goes! Also the craft show! Check your local Lions Club they may be able to give you a wheelchair for free that you can keep in your home.
No response from siblings? That stinks.
If everyone does come for Christmas I wonder if there is a motel/hotel near by that your family wouldn't mind staying at.
We have catered the holiday dinner at Safeway before and it is great!
Great news about the two editorial projects! Even greater news that you are doing things for yourself! If you record your guitar and piano play I will see if I can download to this blog! I also love the lunch, we worry so much about the social interaction with our folks that sometimes we forget that we need it too! Let us know how the confernce goes!
Bill
Hi Pat
I really don't much about caregiving except here. Once in a rare while with my sis. Maybe I should look to see if they have a caregiver group here.
Vent this direction anytime! That is one of the main reasons I started the blog to give those of us with elderly parents a place to vent.
The way it looks right now if mom decides to go back to assisted living it won't be until January.
Bill
Hi Bill, I am glad you got all your things settled in with your mother, but it sure sounds like it was a big ole mess. I cannot imagine how you keep it together with all the moving. But it sounds to me like things might be ok with the live in? As long as she doesn't assume too many other things, even with the notarized papers I would keep an eye on it all. I don't know how you all find the money to have helpers.
I hope it all works out for you and you get to keep on track with your own life. It sounds like you are doing just fine so far, and having a great time with the classes.
Ladydr...it sounds to me like you have some of the same problems with siblings as I do.
Thank God. I thought I was out there by myself.
About my caregiving, lets see....(now remember Bill, you asked)
Since coming here to my parents home 5 years ago to care for my dying mother 24/7 until her death 10 months later, I have promised to stay on to care for my dad in his hour of need. He promised me he would deed the house to me if I cared for mom and him. As I would have to leave my home for over 7 years as I was 100 miles away it seems like an ok offer for the moment but we didn't have much time to think. He is 82 now and for sure I believe in better health than me. I fully expected that I would be the one to be left caring for my mother as I was sure my dad would pass first as all the men in his family did before the age of retirement and my mothers family all lived to be in their 100's. Not the case and I now know what my mother meant all these years when she told me stories about my dad looking at her like she had 3 heads when she would speak to him.
OMG.... is all I have to say. It is a complete nightmare living here with him. Yes he is in good health and I am thankful for that...although he recently had a stroke he has had all the tests known to man since and they find him in complete 100% good standing.
He, after 1 nite of the stroke resumed his golfing and has not stopped since. I am thankful for that as I know he will be a tough ole bird to handle if he has any kind of debilitating illness striken upon him.
But I never knew him to be this selfish. Since I came here I have seen my older sister and younger brother each 2 times. Once when my mother was diagnosed and second at her funeral where my sister took it upon herself to rid the house of all of my mothers things, take what she wanted and throw away what she didn't deem necessary.
My dad also managed to "disappear" every day while she was alive from dawn to dusk. I thought I had grown up in the best family a person could ask for. I never thought we had a problem...I was a happy camper... I had no idea they were all this selfish. I thought we all were brought up by the same parents.
I think I am adopted.
I know there are people who just cannot deal with illness and caregiving or death, but I sure did not expect that I would get No help whatsoever from any of them. My sister may call once a year just to see what I am doing basically to see if she has "missed" anything. I think my brother doesn't care one way or the other. Before this we all got along so well.
A year after my mother's death my husband had a heart attack. I got no help. Of course the hospital that is 10 minutes away was not equipped to deal with anything to do with the Heart...so he was in a hospital an hour away. I ran back and forth for weeks and of course my dad had to get the flu during all this and my brother who lives 2 minutes away could not find the time to help/feed or look in on him while I was with my husband. That was another nightmare.
Upon our arrival home and I was trying to get my husband settled the best and easiest way possible, all my dad had to say was, "What's for dinner?"
I didn't think my dad was so hard to get along with. The house was falling apart when we got here. Since the "promise" my husband and I did all we could to repair things. All we get are laughs of how much it cost. He is a penny pincher. I know most may say frugal...but no a certified penny pincher.
I have had flashbacks of my childhood since here and he is and always has been one. I just didn't notice how bad til now.
I do have some stories.
Oh and after 5 years I have yet to see my name on the deed. I gave up a few years ago. I never asked for it...he offered it and I accepted. I have lived up to my end and then some and have been his "secretary" as he calls it and have cooked and cleaned the home and tried to respect his space as I still feel this is his home.
I only took one bedroom for my husband and myself. We replaced windows/porches/lawnmowers/carpets/major appliances and remodeled the bathroom after the floor fell in while he was "on a golfing vacation". He was not impressed. I have asked if he wants me to leave but he insists he loves me being here and needs me and of course I did make the promise! He never lets me forget that I promised.
But I am done with it all. I wish each nite to hit the lottery so I can give him most of the money and tell him to use it to pay for his own companion/caregiver so I can leave and finally find peace of mind and get back to living and maybe be a bit selfish like my family seems to be and get all my things from my home out of storage....after 5 years it will seem like Christmas! :)
Ok you asked for it. You said I could say what I wanted here. I had a bad day. Spent the bulk of yesterday on the phone for dad with him in my face talking as they talked and I thought I would lose my mind. I needed to get this off my chest. This is the short version but you get the gist of it. I love my dad and loved my mom. But I can honestly say I never want to give any care to anyone for the rest of my natural born days.
Thankyouverymuch...I will be here all nite.
Hi Dona
You are welcome to vent here any where on my blog at anytime.
Dona I also have some of the same sibling problems that you do, you are not alone. My brother does nothing, he just can't face my mom aging and he has a very demanding and not to charitable wife. His wife wouldn't allow him to help anyhow.
Giving up your house and moving into your parents house to take care of them sure in the hell means you deserve your parents' house and you deserve a lot more than your siblings.
Dona the comment about your dad being in better health than you worries be to no end about you. Please take care of yourself. Nobody benefits if you get so ill that you can't help anyone.
I'm glad your dad recovered from his stroke but am very sorry he is so selfish. It just seems that when they reach a certain age they get selfish and think the world revovles around them. They also fail to see how their actions effect the people around them. As long as they are taken care of that is pretty much all they care about. Unless we rebell. And this may be the time for you stand up for your rights and make him find some options that don't include you.
Your siblings sound as selfish as your dad. They also sound like my siblings in one way, out of sight out of mind.
You may not be adopted but sure in the hell have the best character of anyone in the family.
Ouch re your husband. God Dona you just have had to damn much to deal with. I know what you mean about trips to the hospital and no help.
Once when my dad was alive. He couldn't walk. You couldn't leave him for a minute because he would try to get up and fall. Mom had a stroke and was in the hospital for two days. For two days I had to take dad every where with me, to business meetings, to work, to the hospital to visit mom, grocery shopping, etc. While I was doing this, my sister in law was visitng my niece. Neither my niece or my sister in law visited my mom in the hospital let alone ask if the could help me so I could at least go home and get my mail.
I afraid I would have blown it if I were you when your dad asked "what's for dinner"
That is just tragic that your name is not on the deed. I sure hope there is at least a will leaving the house to you. If not your selfish siblings will get a part interest in the house. I think I would push for my name on the deed. I would certainly look into a living trust where you at trustee or you and your dad are co trustees.
I think you more than fulfilled your part of the bargain and kept your promise, I think if you leave you have absolutely nothing to feel guilty about.
I truly know how you feel about not wanting to care for someone anymore. I am there too.
I am glad you had your say here. Keeping it bottled up is just awful.
It cost over 200k to take care of my dad for three years when we did most of the care giving ourselves. It took about half of mom's estate. The other half is going to mom's care. There won't be anything left for the kids.
We have moved so much we have become move savvy.
We are watching the live-in very closely and she knows she may have to leave us quickly.
The classes have been my salvation. Truthfully going through the last week with the move, the caregiver, sis, without the class to calm me I would have had a heart attack.
OK, Dona don't keep it in for so long next time vent any time. You can also email me anytime and vent away. I'm a private person and won't tell anyone anything.
Bill
Oh, Dona, hugs, hugs and more hugs! My caregiving is a walk in the park, by comparison. I'm glad you vented to the blog and, believe me, anytime you want to vent to me, you're welcome to do so (do you see my email from here?)
When it comes to sibs, you're certainly not alone. Bill has issues with his. I have major issues with mine, much as you describe. They don't really want to know Mom's not like she was five years ago. Easier to pretend otherwise and that's easiest if you don't see her. They only see her if she traveles to them and I think we've come to the point where that's no longer an option. The support isn't there. My brother will help on occasion with a financial issue, like the med-alert system, but not the sisters, who have their own financial concerns and apparently figure we're capable of passing out money without thought.
Like you, I went through the heart attack issue with my husband, although it was before Mom's health was an issue. Still, no offer to come help or ask whether I needed assistance. Just deal with it. Yet, when my b-i-ls had cancer, I was back and forth to CA and AZ. Go figure.
The house thing is bothersome, particularly as you and Hubby gave up your own home and have put so much energy into the house. I'm with Bill -- get some sort of legal something. Bill mentioned to me elder care attorneys, I think they're called. Email Bill and get the details -- it could make a huge difference for all of you. If Mom is any indication, it may not be easy... she's still dragging her feet and not understanding why it's important that things be laid out and that she be aware of any benefits she may be eligible for (like home health care, rather than giving up her home), or the fact I may not be able to be a 24/7caregiver, if that becomes an issue.
I also hear you on thinking you came from a great family and suddenly discovering dysfunction. I'm the only one not in a state of denial and I think that's because I'm the only one living with the issue 24/7 and seeing what's happening. Should I ever find some sort of answer, I'll happily share.
Dona, Bill will tell you I'm pretty upfront in my caring about others. This doesn't sound like a healthy situation for you at all and I really encourage you to start thinking outside the box and seeing if there are other options for you. Find out what resources are available in your area. Check on the elder care attorneys, after talking to Bill. Consider whether your father really needs you there and whether he's really going to deed the house to you. If the answer to either question is nebulous, you may need to look at other options. While my attempts to involve the other sibs have gone nowhere so far, sometimes forcing the issue gets results. What a shame you have a brother so close, who is of no help. I suspect that's more frustrating than my situation where sibs are spread across the country and have various "reasons" they can't be of practical assistance (but, boy, do they have suggestions for what I should do!)
You're not by yourself, Dona. We're here and there are a lot of other folks like us out there. We just want to find them and learn from them, as I learn from you and Bill and Pat and Kaye.
Okay, you made a promise, but it was based on facts and assumptions that are no longer true or valid. Remember that. I wish I had some answers, but all I have is a great deal of empathy.
You're not having any fun and I suspect you're not taking care of yourself at all. If you can find programs that will allow your dad to stay in his house and you to move out, maybe find someplace nearby, it may be good for all of you. If not, please look for ways to take care of you. I've been very bad about caring for me and am paying the price. If you don't care for you, you can't care for someone else. Sounds like you need to find some way to get out of the house and find something meaningful for you -- for me, it's water aerobics at a nearby pool and line dance classes once a week, plus I still have my own business. Sometimes, it seems overwhelming, but if I didn't have that going on, I'm not sure where I'd be. Doing something(s) for you is both physically and socially healthy and it doesn't sound like Dad needs you 24/7.
Hugs...
Bill.... I just don't know how you did it. What a week!
Pat... I agree with Bill and DR. It speaks well of the staff if they buy your Mother things. They see her more as a person than a patient and that's all good. I'm sure they do it for the same reason we give gifts... to see their smile. How good is that? (smile)
DR... I hope the gel injections work, too. And, amazing how siblings can find a way to ignore things in hopes they go away, or knowing that you'll take care of it. They'll also probably be the first to complain that something wasn't done correctly. How good would their life be if their parents treated them that way when nuturing them?
I'm also pleased to see you getting into some things for YOU. DO NOT STOP!
Dona... I don't know how you do it. Your situation is so unfair to you and your husband. I wish I had a magic wand to make things better for you. Just don't neglect taking care of you. Could you take a mini-vacation.. a long weekend, just to recharge? Sounds like you're way over due for that.
Bill.. thanks again for what you offer all of us. You're a gem.
Hugs to all!
Kaye
My dear friend you mentioned all of us but your didn't tell us how things are going for you.
Bill
Wow, didn't expect to get such nice comments back..thanks to you all.
I feel much better now!
As far as pushing the issue....I figured at first I would give him time...then I mentioned it cautiously...when his sister and then her husband passed suddenly and all hell broke loose with their estate, I surely figured he would do something...nothing. I have even told him to put it into his precious other childrens names. Figuring it will go somewhere as at this point I don't care...I would be content to live in my car...as its MY CAR!
But nothing. I offered to pay to have it done and nothing.
When he had his stroke the next day he mentioned maybe I should have POA. But still no action.
He will not have a will. He is firm on that. He will not write anything down he is firm on that. He is not going anywhere, that was his whole point he wants to stay here at his home. He just tells me what I am to do. And like a good daughter I do it... Yes I am a wuss.
I just do what I can. We can't possibly get much else right at the moment...I am pretty much stuck. The monies we had put back we have spent in the last 5 years on this house. Trust me it was a mess. We are still paying hospital bills from the heart attack. We are now insurance/medically poor.
:)
Yes I need some cheese with my whine. \\
But I thank you all for your advice and thoughts it was nice to know somebody knows what I am going through.
I will keep it all in my mind and maybe just ask Bill for help when I need some.
Thanks guys!
Dona
Take a deep breath and repeat after me, I am not whining, I am not whining.
When I started this blog I wanted to do several things. Meet people. Improve my writing. Share my thoughts. Allow people to get to know me. But most of all after seven years of caregiving with nobody to talk to about it I wanted to provide a space for people that had nobody to talk to to vent and talk about it.
That is why you, your husband, anyone is free to email me or post anything anywhere on the blog. There is very little I won't allow. The n word, the f word. But other than that if just want to vent or just cuss. This is the place to do it.
The blog is more than me, it is the wonderful posters and as you see very supportive posters. You are no longer a stranger to us, you are a friend to us and we want you to be happy. When you share your story you may be helping you but you are also helping us!!
With your dad maybe you need intervention to get a trust done. A trust he still maintains control it just makes it easier if something happens to him. Please consider that.
Also here are a couple of links:
http://www.senior-centers.net/indiana-15.html
eldercare.com
visitingangels.com
The eldercare.com especially has a ton of advice from professionals. Check it out!
Bill
Gee Bill, I don't quite know how to thank you. Also you hit the nail on the head...he just wants to maintain control.
But I also have a significant other that needs some control as well.
Nuff said?
Thanks for the info and links. I will surely know who to come to when I have more questions.
Dona, what a story! You seem to be giving up your life (and maybe your husband's, too) with only a verbal "promise" of some kind of recompense. I know this will sound cold, but in your place, I would insist on a will being signed and notarized before going on with this indentured servitude.
I wrote that before I read Bill's & DR's & Kaye's comments. I will echo everything they said. I see that your father resists the idea of a will, so perhaps a trust making you successor trustee? That would leave him in control as long as he lives, and might be easier for him to accept. I'd make it an ultimatum, but that's easy for me to say at such a remove.
My own situation is a piece o' cake next to yours, and I know I'd not have been able to do what you're doing.
Hello again... and thanks for asking how things are with me, Bill. Pretty much same-o-same-o. But I appreciate you asking.
Tomorrow starts a new week (deep, cleansing breath).. we'll all have a better one!
Hugs to all
OK Everyone
In the words of my favorite hostess, "Breathe in, Reach, Snack." Relax everyone. We all deserve a break!!!!
Bill
Wow, so many problems with caregiving. I wish every day that Vicky was normal and would be moving out like other kids so I could get some "normal" life but since that will never happen, I just move on.
Dona,
I'm sorry to hear things are so rough, please feel free to email me if you need to vent. I'm busy but NOT that busy for you.
Bill,
I'm glad things are settling in for you. I loved the pictures of your town. Very interesting to see where you live. I hope things continue to progress will with your Mom and the living arrangements.
Pat and Lady dr,
Good luck with your endeavors to be caregivers and I hope things improve or at the very least, your spirits stay high.
Dee : )
Hi Dee
As always it is nice to see you here.
I truly think you have it harder than any of us. I see it as harder to take care of a young adult than it is an older adult. I really admire your dedication.
I'm glad you liked the pictures!
Bill
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