Friday, March 20, 2009

What A Week, Update Me on Yours

I always look forward to Fridays for a number of reasons. First, I can sleep in on Saturday Morning. I can but I seldom do. But it is nice getting up and not having to pack my lunch or hurry around getting dressed. Second, it is one day closer to April 15. But the best reason to look forward to Fridays? UPDATE DAY! This is the day when I turn over the blog to the posters. Where you all tell me everything going on in your lives. Your concerns. Your joys. Your questions. Anything you want to share with your friends here. The Good. The Bad. The Ugly. If you have been reading the blog for a while and want to come forward and tell us what brought you to the blog or share some things about yourself this is a good day to do it. You really can do it any day you want to but this day probably gets more hits than the others. Or if you just found the blog we would love to meet you.

For me the good was having my sister and her husband here to share my duties with mom. It was really helpful. The bad was the cat fight at work Monday. The Ugly was when Sister and her husband got back home to Utah their home was broken into and they lost almost thirty thousand dollars worth of stuff. What a mess! It isn't something that you would never wanted to be confronted with, but after a long trip that is even more stressful. They do have insurance, that will help.

Some of the other stuff that went on this week. They had me meet with a client at work. That shows trust. Had a really nice good bye dinner with my sister and her husband on Tuesday. My brother also has been here from Wyoming and have really been attentive of Mom. Really unusual but welcome. This week I also solved a problem between the guys that bought my business and a very valued client that has been with me since the early eighties. It is the one that when he first became my client he was working out of the trunk of his car selling radio time to clients. Now he is a millionaire many times over. This is a really nice man that you really need to address his issues. I'm glad it was solved. He was talking about suing to break my non-compete agreement so I could work on his stuff again. I don't really want that, I am on to new things and don't really want to go back. The rest of the week was mostly work and sleep. Man am I getting tired with three jobs. I haven't even had time to do laundry and if I don't do it soon I'm going to have to buy new clothes!

OK, it is your turn. Tell me anything you damn well please!

14 comments:

Pat said...

That's awful about the break-in at your sister's home! I can only imagine how violated they must feel, apart from losing so much of value.

I'm glad you could solve the problem your millionaire friend had with the new guys. They seem fine to me, but I'm sure my return is a million times easier than his.

Nothing much new here. I did get my mom signed up with new insurance, which takes effect April 1st, so that's a load off. Otherwise, she continues about the same. With the anti-depressant at 3 p.m., she's better in the evenings, but some evenings are better than others. Wish I knew what made her agitated some nights and not others. She's usually fine in the daytime. "Sundowning" is a very odd symptom, and quite common. Not much is known about the cause, but some think it could be from decreased light or the flurry of activity around the person as other residents are prepared for bed. I'm going to try to keep an eye on whether all the lights are on during the agitated evenings -- that's something I hadn't thought of before, though it seems kind of a no-brainer when you think about it. Will also see if there's a difference as the days grow longer. My evening visits are usually between 6 and 8 p.m., so the time of year makes a big difference in the amount of light.

William J. said...

Hi Pat

If the lighting works you can get sunlights, maybe that will be the answer. Let us know if the lignt makes a difference.

I am glad that the insurance is finally transferred. What a pain in the rump that has been.

My friend has Has three partnership returns, two corporate returns, and one individual returns, all difficult ones and interrelated. So yes his is a tad more difficult than yours.

My heart just feels for my sister and her husband. They were here helping and that was a terrible thing to go back to.

Bill

Bev Sykes said...

My big news: today I start my tenth year of writing a daily journal!

William J. said...

WOW BEV!

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY. You certainly helped me out when I start out.

May your next ten years of journaling be even more fun, more rewarding, and more exciting than the last ten year!

Bill

Lady DR said...

I'm so glad you enjoyed your break. What a mess for your sis to get home to. I can empathize -- middle sister's house was broken into while they spent Christmas in AK with Mom several years ago and all her gold nugget jewelry from Jim was stolen, along with a lot of electronics and their van. A neighborhood kid, but they never recovered any of the stuff that was pretty much irreplacable. Send her a hug from me, please.

Other than that, sounds like there were good things in your week. As to laundry -- bag it. Just go out and buy new underwear and some shirts -- that's what Himself does if I get called away unexpectedly or for longer than expected (wry s)

Pat, so glad you got the insurance thing squared away. I'd never have thought about the light issue being a part of your mom's reactions and restlessness. You're good!

For me -- I'm not sure how this break stuff is supposed to work, but ... first, there was the email and phone call that prescriptions had to be filled and mailed priority, medical records had to be faxed, No decision on moving, so I sent all the lease and assessment forms to Phoenix for them to deal with (Good Dana, delegate). Then the notice in the door I have to call and schedule maintenance, so I can be there for the repairs and another notice that new exterminators will be there Monday AM and all base cupboards are to be emptied, as well as medicine cabinets and garbage and recycles desponsed of AND all kitchen surfaces have to be completely cleared and scrubbed clean. This is interesting, since the only reason one knows Mom has kitchen counters is because something has to be supporting all the tupperware and knick-knacks and practical or decorative items on them! Then there was the battle with cable company over extending her vacation rate, since I'm not listed on her account and the battle over a billing from the podiatrist from three years ago, that we've never received until now. Let's just say, I've spent almost as much time as Mom's as at home.

On the "up" side, had a wonderful time doing the line dance exhibition at the mall on Sunday -- peaople were smiling, laughing, clapping and snapping pix with their cell phones as we danced. Great fun. Spring term started and I've a Big Class with lots of new students. Given the chatters paid no head to the administrator's admonishment to "shut up when Dana's talking," I located a very loud referee whistle today at Walmart and will be employing that next week, as needed. Ms Nice Gal has disappeared in the past year or two. Started (barely) two new loom projects and have high hopes for both to be "neat" when finished. Long therapy sessions with my Morning Pages, as I realized I was letting anxiety win. Intersting telecon wth middle sister, tellingme she's as disgisted and frustrated with the lack of decisions as I am and "instructing" me to quit trying to save Mom and Deb from the consequences of their inaction. I'm still absorbing and processing that one!

Unknown said...

I'm sorry about the break-in at your sister's. That's such a horrid thing to return to.

I also want to say that I agree with everyone who said that you handed the dispute between your two co-workers well, ie, to have stayed out of it. If you had been part of senior management, then you would have had to step in. But otherwise, no. When someone is that angry, they're really beyond all rational thinking, and if you'd tried to stop it, that person would probably have turned on you, and then it could get really nasty.

Workwise here, the recession has finally hit me in a personal way. The newspaper publishing company that I work for has issued a pay cut, 2-10% across the board, depending on your salary level. The CEO leads with 10%. My cut is 4%. The good news is, no lay-offs.

Not so good on the dad front. All week, he had been very drowsy, he would fall asleep in the middle of meals, even when he was feeding himself, with his mouth full of food and his hand going slack and dropping the spoon, sometimes as often as three, four times during the meal. Something just wasn't right.

He had difficulty peeing as well, and had to have the catheter inserted. They've found some blood in the urine and the doc also took stool samples and think that there's some internal bleeding in the stomach. Nobody quite knows why although one of the doctors ventured that it could be from stress when he fell.

He had a blood transfusion on Friday night because of the internal bleeding. I think that helped. However, the transfusion really is just a Band-aid. They've taken him off blood thinners this weekend and will do a stomach scope on Monday to find out what's wrong and hopefully fix it.

If it's not one thing, it's another.Sigh.

William J. said...

Hi Dr


With sis the police did come out and take fingerrints so there is a chance they can catch the crooks but I don't think there is much chance that they will recover their stuff.

Even on breaks your mom is so used to your input that you are alway going to have some responsibilties no matter where your mom is. I can understand your mom's reluctance to make a decision re moving. Change is hard enough at any age, let alone hers. She will be giving up a lot stuff and people she knows on the East Coast for a lot of stuff and people she doesn't know in Arizona. However, I agree that wwith your middle sister sometimes you have to let them alone and quit rescuing them.

What a battle with the foot doc and the cable company life should be easier!

The line dancing seems to be your saviour! I bet you look forward to it every week.

Yea for the whistle!

Bill

William J. said...

Snug

WOW, if it doesn't rain it pours. You are dealing with to damn much right now.

First the pay cut and then the discovery of internal bleeding with you dad. I would think I would be rolled up on the couch in the fetal position having to deal with that much.

I honestly hope the world economy starts turning around. There are little signs here that it might be starting to turn. The stock market was up four of the last five days. Now I've lost 37% instead of 39%.

I'm keeping your family in my prayers, first that the economy will turn around and your full pay will be restored and the Monday tests will result in a treat that can help and heal your dad.

Hugs, Snug.

Bill

Lady DR said...

Oh, Snug, so sorry to hear about the paycuts. As you say, thank goodness there were no layoffs, but still...

I'm keeping your dad in my prayers and hoping Monday you'l get some answers. You really got hit this week and I know how worrisome it is when there are physical problems and no answer as to exactly what or why.

((Hugs))

Pat said...

Snug, very sorry to hear about your dad. You sure have a lot on your plate right now, what with the salary cuts and not knowing what's wrong with Dad. I hope Monday brings good news on that front, and as to the job, I guess it's good that they managed to avoid layoffs, but still... not a pleasant thing to deal with.

Yes, Bill, it sounds like your friend has a tad more to deal with taxwise than I do. Just a tad. [g]

William J. said...

Hi Pat

His return may be a tad more complicated than yours, but you are nicer and pay your bill on time, he sometimes doesn't fit either catergory!

Bill

Pat said...

{smile} Thanks, Bill.

Unknown said...

Another update: dad's oesophagal scope didn't show any abnormalities. Which I suppose is good. The doctors are now considering a colonscopy tomorrow.

Dad's fine, but I heard he was grumpy this morning because he wanted breakfast but wasn't allowed food before the scope.

Thank you all, for your prayers, care and concern. I'm very touched by your care, you guys are the nicest people I've never met. :)

William J. said...

Hi Snug

Two bits of good news they didn't find anything and that your dad wanted to eat. However, it is still kind of upsetting that they don't know what is causing the tiredness. Let us know how the colonoscopy goes.

And we are nice because you are!

Bill