Sunday, June 17, 2012

Dad's Day Update

Everyone is gone. Sister and her husband are exhausted. I'm tired but less tired than they are so I am taking over today with mom to give them some rest.

This is a really hard day for me. It is like a sledge hammer reminder of someone you love no longer being in your life. If you want to read what my dad was like you can read my post of a couple of years ago. It is the most read post of any post I posted since the beginning of the blog:

Before my update and a plea for your updates I want to say Happy Fathers Day to all the dads out there. This poem is for you:

Our fathers toil with hands and heart
To make our lives complete.
They quietly brave the winter cold,
Endure the summer heat.

Our fathers' lives are busy, but
There's always time for us.
They boldly face the ups and downs
And seldom ever fuss.

Our fathers are the greatest dads.
We know you know this, too.
But thank you for the chance to share
Our love for them with you.

by David A. Olds.

Now on to my update. I am in a reverse mood today so what is coming up first. Today is lunch and dinner for mom. Monday is mowing lawns and cleaning house. Tuesday is getting my car to the doctor for a checkup. Wednesday is the night at Mom's. Thursday is a day I am just dreading. I don't want to keep adding years to my life. Friday is a me day. Saturday is a bunch of paperwork cleanup including my license renewal.

Last week was Sunday at Mom's. Monday a dinner at sister's house welcoming relatives from Texas, Tuesday was reality checks at an amusement park. Wednesday and Thursday were at Mom's so the troops could go to the coast and go deep sea fishing. It was a partial success. Everyone caught a halibut but half the troops got seasick. Friday was a day at the seminar completing my education requirements so I can renew my license. Friday night was a good bye bbq for the Texas relatives and five hot games of Catch Phrase. Men won three of the five. Saturday was at Mom's and Saturday evening was taking Mom and Susan the caregiver out for dinner for Susan's birthday.

OK, your turn. The blog is yours. Catch me up on your lives, tell me about what is going to happen in your lives in the near future. Post anything you damn well please. But most of all, Comment Away


dona said...

Once again you seen to have a full week ahead of you. After last week I don't know how you find the energy!

I love the poem, I also loved reading your post to your dad again. I believe we were raised the same, you and I. A lot of your memories are how I remember life being with my mom and dad. Thanks for putting up the link to read your post again.

The last few years dad has said not to buy anything for him when it comes to birthdays or days like today. He believes at his age he has enough and he needs nothing more. I will usually make sure to make him his favorite dinner or sweet, or take him out. But this year I got him a gift anyhow, of course a Golf Shirt. (what else do you get a die hard golfer who has everything?) But its hard as he is not necessarily picky but different brands fit different on him and he always has to take things back (hence the don't buy me anything remark) Oddly enough it fit perfect and he seemed to love it color and all. I made a 35 minute drive up to a Chinese take out to get him his favorite meal too.

The Shankster also got some Chinese (we all love it) and I treated him with an Easy Cheesy Lemon Bar for a treat(his fav) Yes I know I shouldn't feed him the sweets, but I put a limit on how many he can eat and after all its Father's Day.

William J. said...

Hi Dona

I actually think we are brother and sister!

It is Fathers' Day and he deserves an Easy Cheesy Lemon Bar!!

My mom is just like your dad and doesn't want anything for special days. I love the idea of a Golf Shirt! You did good since the shirt fit and he loved it! He had a great day! He is lucky to have you as a daughter.

Thanks for the nice comment about the previous blog entry and the poem!


Kellianne Frazier said...

In the girls defense, we scored many more points overall and Susan was determined to help you win! ;)

William J. said...

Hi Kelli

So nice to see you here!

But in our defense we won even though not many of the guys new poetry!

It was such a pleasure to meet you and your family. You and Rob have obviously been great parents because kids are so well behaved and well mannered.

You all were fun to be around!


Kellianne Frazier said...

We had a wonderful visit. Thank you for your sweet words. I've stolen as many pictures as I can.

Lady DR said...

Goodness, what a busy week you had and another coming up. As to Thursday - I'd much rather you add another year to your life and time with us than otherwise! Do something special for you, please.

Today isn't a sledge hammer day for me. It's more a day to remember all the good things Daddy did/taught me and remember uncles and others who did the same. Unfortunately, Himself's kids didn't bother to send cards or phone, so the loves he got were from our furry kids (who are sometimes more understanding and affectionate than the human kind)

I'm glad to be back again. I've had my fill of traveling, for whatever reason, and hope to stay settled in my peaceful little corner of the world for a bit. The previous week is a blur of phone calls, getting a flight out ASAP. Mom had decided she wanted to get to IL a couple days before and did get to spend time with Aunt D, before she passed. We stayed at Aunt D's house, which was also the designated "command post" and meant people in and out from 7:30 am to 10:30 pm or later. Let's leave it at it was an exhausting, emotional and enlightening week.
I got home Monday night and have, this time, taken slow steps to returning to whatever may be normal and routine. The week in IL was more tiring than the 3+ week trip to AZ.
Been a scattered week of trying to catch up on domestics, editorial, trying to schedule clients and find a schedule that will allow me to meet client deadlines and then figure out how to get my own book ready to be published and get the marketing in place. I think I need an extra day in the week for the next few months, but that's not a negative, just a challenge.I did get to the pool a couple times and I cast fate to the winds and went to line dance for my mental well being. Hopefully, I can get a routine back in place.

Dona - good to see your note and good job on the shirt for your dad.

Kelli - nice to see you here. Bill has acquainted us with you and I'm wishing you the best.

William J. said...


I just hope you will visit us again!


William J. said...


So Nice to see you here!! Welcome back.

I think the alternative to not adding a year to be life would definitely be worse but it would ne nice to subtract years instead of add them.

I guess I should like at days like Fathers' Day as positively as you do. Remembering the good things always helps.

I want to slap some sense into Himself's kids. The furry kids always love us no matter what.

Were glad your back too! You have been on the road forever it seems.
Your Mom is amazing to handle the trip as well as she did. Meeting people for over 12 hours straight is exhausting to anyone no matter what the reason for for a memorial doubles the exhaustion.

I imagine the catch up is extreme having been gone for basically a month straight. I am glad you are making progress on your book because it is so needed. And I am glad you are making time for the pool and line dancing.

I'm rooting for getting back in a routine!