Saturday, October 13, 2012

In Memory Of

Of Pat Peck

I have a heavy heart today after learning yesterday, that good friend, blog contributor, client, and all around good person, Pat Peck fell prey to lung cancer and has moved on to another world. She was one of the most supportive friends that I have ever had. She supported the blog. Helped me deal with the tense time with my mom. She supported my business by allowing me to do her tax returns until I retired. I first met Pat on the Internet:

Pat was at every face to face get together. She was an opera lover, sang the Itsy Bitsy Spider the right way, made great U-turns, was loyal mother, friend, and client, she raised a great daughter, and she had an outstanding career:

When my Mom found out that Pat was ill she took upon herself to write Pat a letter. She wanted to thank Pat for being my friend for so many years. Pat wrote the following lovely response:

" I got the sweetest letter from your mom today. She says you
consider me one of your best friends, and know that I return your
feelings on that score. I may not be able to write back directly
through you, but please let her know that I loved her letter and
also know how much you and she love each other and that it is a very
nice thing to know about in this world.

I may be pretty scarce from now on... part of the normal course.
One day is good, the next not so much, and it's hard to keep up
with computer stuff.


Pat "

The day's poem:

Is anybody happier today because you passed their way?

Does Anyone remember that you spoke to them today?

The day is almost over and its toiling tolling time is through

Is there anyone to utter a kindly word of you?

Can you say tonight in parting with the day that's slipping fast,
That you helped one of the many that passed your way?

Is a single heart rejoicing today over what you said or did?

Does the man or woman whose hopes were fading, now look ahead with courage?

Did you leave a trail of kindness?

As you close your eyes in slumber will God welcome you in his home?

In Pat Peck's case she could answer every question with a resounding yes. She will be missed. May she rest in peace


dona said...

Bill, I am so sorry to hear this news. It saddens me, as I have come to feel that you, Pat, DR, Symply and Snug are my friends, long distant, but still friends. Sending you hugs today.

Lady DR said...

Thank you, Bill. Pat didn't want a funeral or memorial service, but I'll bet she's grinning down at you for the unique "eulogy" you've provided.

Thanks for the memories of the Issues forum - what a group we were and what fun we had. The Netstock in Boulder was a great time and part of that was sharing a room with Pat and Maryanne E. What a sense of humor Pat had.

Over the past few years, Pat and I had grown close, exchanging emails each evening, solving the world's problems, discussing books, trials and triumphs. We discussed my book, I asked her advice about an additional chapter and she not only liked the idea, she read it, edited it and added to it. She was always a source of support and encouragement, often provided a giggle for the day and just as often saved my sanity on occasion.

Her spirit is still here. I sense her voice, saying, "Finish the book, feed the birds, play with Scamp and forget about the d*mned ironing!"

Therapy Shirl said...

I am very sad to know that Pat has died. I remember vividly meeting her for the first time in person, presenting her with a necklace made from dried okra, and seeing her face shine with delight. She had never seen okra before! What a wonderful person she was. May she be at peace in the other world.

Betty Jung said...

Very nice post Bill. I didn't know Pat but I have to say I cried when I read your words. I'm sure she loved you and your mom and loves what you said too. My condolences.

William J. said...

Hi Dona

We are not only friends Dona we are family. Thanks for the hugs they are needed.


William J. said...


It was a great group and I've always felt so lucky that the women accepted me as part of the group. Pat was one of the most accepting. She also had a great sense of humor.

I knew how close you and Pat have become. I can just hear her saying "forget the damned ironing."

She will be remembered and missed.


William J. said...

Hi Shirley!!!

I hope things are well with you and your hubby.

I remember how much Pat loved that okra neckless. She treasured it.

I am glad she is no longer suffering and may she be at peace in the other world.


William J. said...

Hi Betty

Thanks for the nice post. The letter she wrote to mom had to take a lot of her energy. Just makes it even more meaningful.

Hope things are well with you.